Let me explain..
Today I attended a reunion and it made me feel quite uneasy... Not with the people, but within myself- I think sometimes is hard to acknowledge the change in yourself by your past reflections.
Old faces change. People loose and put on weight. Get married. Move house. Starts Ti Chi. Discover vanilla lattes.
Every day we move and adapt to our surroundings. How much are we shaped by our circumstances?
Coffee or no coffee? Mood and self regulation. A constant, changing state.
REALISATION TWO: RELATIONSHIPS & EXPECTATIONS CHANGE
If 'self' changes so radically from day to day, from environment to environment, surely anything connected with another 'self' would have to be managed with this in mind.
Do we shrink or grow? Push or shove? Give or take?
If you're stagnant in expectations & self, what are the nature of your relationships?
REALISATION THREE: THINGS CAN GET MESSY
The subheading says it all, really.
REALISATION FOUR: BUT.... DON'T PANIC.
I'm in the same boat as everyone else.
I have stuff, you have stuff, we all have stuff.
Not quite the 'radical acceptance' theory , but it's learning what stuff to keep and what stuff to throw over board.
Which stuff to acknowledge and foster, which stuff to put out with the trash.
We choose the stuff which gets melded into oars and rudder for direction and control.
I choose whether to use the oars and rudder, and that choice governs my direction & communication.
AND NUMBER FIVE:
Sometimes you've just got to go with it.
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